Recently, I had to deal with a certain situation, that I was very unprepared for. My daughter is eight years of age. From what I can recollect as a child, adult conversation and topics were just not part of my world.
Whether I could master the cris cross, roller skating trick the neighbour taught me was. In saying that, my childhood was not all fun and games.
My parents were struggling with their own journey of being in a foreign country and their marriage was a turbulent one, I guess that why being outside and at the neighbours, was so inviting.
And that saying, 'it takes a village to raise a family', well that was definitely true for myself and my sister, our extended family did a lot of caring for us.
I guess this doesn't really happen much anymore. I had very little support when our children were young, but that was very much my own doing. I was discovering the way I wanted our children to be raised, and well they were not exactly on par, with what other people's opinions of parenting.
At times, it was challenging, but I totally absorbed myself in my role as a mother. I wanted to enjoy every waking moment of my daughter,whether I was sleep deprived and my house looked like a bomb and gone off in it, all I wanted to do was, lay with my daughter and watch her. I knew, these moments were going to be etched into my memory, I adored her, and I still do. When her little brother came along, I thought you could not feel anymore love, but your heart just swells even more. And watching how my then toddler, took her her baby brother as her own, just melted my heart.
I kept a diary of milestones, when my children were young, just to remember them and remember the emotion, at the time.
As a parent, I want my children to enjoy their childhood. I do not want the adult world to impose itself on my children, however this can be hard to maintain.
Commercialization of children is everywhere, and it is extremely difficult to monitor and. I am not trying to wrap my children in cotton wool, but I believe children, can not understand certain topics and comments with underlying definition. You can monitor what's seen in your home, but you can not control other environments or other people. My children are quite emotive little people and are slowly showing resilience.
They are growing at a rapid rate, but I am grateful they can talk to me and I have a relationship with them that is open. And throughout very stage of their development, I have had to to let them go, at times I do that with ease, other times I feel myself getting overwhelmed with emotion, but I am ok with that.
Whether I could master the cris cross, roller skating trick the neighbour taught me was. In saying that, my childhood was not all fun and games.
My parents were struggling with their own journey of being in a foreign country and their marriage was a turbulent one, I guess that why being outside and at the neighbours, was so inviting.
And that saying, 'it takes a village to raise a family', well that was definitely true for myself and my sister, our extended family did a lot of caring for us.
I guess this doesn't really happen much anymore. I had very little support when our children were young, but that was very much my own doing. I was discovering the way I wanted our children to be raised, and well they were not exactly on par, with what other people's opinions of parenting.
At times, it was challenging, but I totally absorbed myself in my role as a mother. I wanted to enjoy every waking moment of my daughter,whether I was sleep deprived and my house looked like a bomb and gone off in it, all I wanted to do was, lay with my daughter and watch her. I knew, these moments were going to be etched into my memory, I adored her, and I still do. When her little brother came along, I thought you could not feel anymore love, but your heart just swells even more. And watching how my then toddler, took her her baby brother as her own, just melted my heart.
I kept a diary of milestones, when my children were young, just to remember them and remember the emotion, at the time.
As a parent, I want my children to enjoy their childhood. I do not want the adult world to impose itself on my children, however this can be hard to maintain.
Commercialization of children is everywhere, and it is extremely difficult to monitor and. I am not trying to wrap my children in cotton wool, but I believe children, can not understand certain topics and comments with underlying definition. You can monitor what's seen in your home, but you can not control other environments or other people. My children are quite emotive little people and are slowly showing resilience.
They are growing at a rapid rate, but I am grateful they can talk to me and I have a relationship with them that is open. And throughout very stage of their development, I have had to to let them go, at times I do that with ease, other times I feel myself getting overwhelmed with emotion, but I am ok with that.
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